Sitting here waiting for my children to finish camp I realized that I have not really thought about who or what I am for a long time. Once you become a parent who or what you were or want to be tends to get pushed to the side. You start to think about all the good things you want for your children and then get lost and wrapped up in this 'child quest' I like to call it.
Maybe you start think about what you wanted to be when you were a child an did not achieve. So you say I'm going to make sure that my child has every opportunity to be what they want to be. This sounds great, as I know that all most parents want is for their children to have a better life than they had. And this can sometimes be a problem on both sides, for the child and the parent. If a child seems to excel in a sport, math or music, we push that child to be the best. Now what if at some point the child does not want this anymore, do we stop and say that's ok or say 'you were made to so this' and force them to continue.
We as parents need to realize that children change their minds everyday as to what they want to be when they grow up. And we should also see that although we think we are helping them, we are actually causing them to hate what they are doing and so in turn, start to hate themselves and even you.
Stop for a moment and listen to your child. Let them voice an opinion, after all it is their lives. Think back to when you were a child, were you forced to do something you didn't want, even if you were good at it. Let them live their life as it is ment to be. Namaste!